I was raised to never ask anybody for anything. My mom was really strong and really strong willed. A lot of what she instilled in me has made me an awesome confident person. Some of it has made me crazy.
Recently she acknowledged that I need to let go of the belief that asking someone for a favor doesn't signify weakness. In my head, I realize that too. But the thought of asking anyone for anything literally makes me sick to my stomach. So much so that each time I asked a friend to be my bridesmaid it was followed by "But only if you want to...I won't be offended if you say no....and I promise not to ask anything of you. Just show up." I was sweating bullets on that one and these are people I've known forever.
Sometimes I get a little jealous of other people's relationships with their friends. Those amazing DIY weddings where all of the friends and family chip in to decorate and bake and be generally awesome? Yeah, I would never even dream of asking a friend for any of that. Long nights of crafting fun with the bridesmaids? Nope. Hell, I didn't even ask my girls to go dress shopping with me because I didn't want to interfere with their schedules.
I told my MOH and aunt they didn't need to plan a shower for me because I didn't want them to have to spend any additional money or time on me. (Luckily they saw right through that one and did it anyway) I tell everyone the DIY projects are going just fine, although it would be really nice to have somebody else help me address envelopes. And I probably won't have a bachelorette party because my dear friends have no idea that I want one.
|I totally want crazy Bridesmaids antics thrown down on my behalf (via NY Times)|
So how exactly does one go about asking for a bachelorette party anyway?